Monica shares her story with Resolve.org and we are privileged to have her share her personal journey with the Roaring Adventures Village.
"Monica Bivas was born in Colombia South America. At the age of 32, she and her husband were informed that her fallopian tubes were blocked due to severe endometriosis. Even after doing a laparoscopy to try and unblock them, it didn’t work making IVF (In Vitro Fertilization) the only option. Her husband Moshe Bivas was supportive all the way, however the emotional stress was very heavy on both of them.
Her first cycle was successful, they retrieved 34 eggs and 14 fertilized. 4 of the eggs were transferred and she was a mom of a girl whom today is 13 years old. She thought it was so easy that next cycle would be the same, but it was not.
In 2009, Monica and Moshe decided to have a second baby. Due to a mistake made by the clinic in the dosage amount of medicine, Monica got OHSS and her cycle had to be cancelled. The RE offered them another cycle at no cost assuming their responsibility in this mistake.
This time Monica and Moshe decided to do chromosomal testing, because they wanted a baby boy. They had 4 embryos, 3 were male. The single female embryo was the less developed. They decided to transfer all 4. Oddly enough, they got pregnant with that baby girl.
Monica’s pregnancy was good all the way, including through the amniocentesis, which confirmed that she was expecting a girl. Everything was normal, but no one knew she was developing a blood issue. At 39 weeks, 3 days before the delivery due date, their baby girl, Isabelle, died in her womb due to a blood clot in the umbilical cord. Monica had to deliver her anyway.
Devastated and lost, she felt guilty for what happened, so Monica and Moshe pursued a 4th round of IVF less than 2 months later. Monica did get a positive test but from the sadness, the loss, the stress and the fear combined with other personal issues, she miscarried at 7 weeks.
In 2011, Monica and Moshe got to the point of being completely lost, showing no sign of how to find their way again. Driven by fear and ego, their relationship turned into a disaster and they almost got divorced.
They chose to make some changes. They chose love.
In 2012, Monica and Moshe decided to go for another round of IVF, the 5th and final. This cycle was an amazing experience. It was full of love, healthy dialogue and peace, which was a direct result of the internal struggles and the shifts they made, together, as a team. This last round of IVF resulted in their other girl whom now is 6 years old.
Today Monica is an IVF, fertility and life coach, author of the book The IVF Planner. A Personal Journal to Organize your Journey Through In vitro Fertilization (IVF) with Love & Positivity.
She also is the stepmother of an 18 year old girl. Monica lives in NY with her husband and Daughters" --
Sending love and light,
Monica Bivas IVF Coach monicabivas.com
As part of this article Monica Bivas has offered to give away 5 copies of her book, The IVF Planner. Beautifully crafted, all encompassing with an amazing attention to detail as she created this personal journal to organize your journey through In Vitro Fertilization (IVF) with Love and Positivity.
Be sure to follow both @monicabivas and @ibecameyourmama to learn how you can win a copy of this incredible resource! Contest ends: Friday, October 11th for a chance to win!
A special thank you to Monica for sharing with the Roaring Adventures Village and supporting women and men in the midst of their fertility journey.